Although I’m a man and can’t relate to women who claim they don’t orgasm or just do it infrequently, I’ve met females who insist they fall into both categories and are resigned to the idea that climaxing is simply not in the cards for them.
The question of whether women who don’t climax during intercourse have psychological problems is a complex one.
It’s important to note that not achieving orgasm during intercourse is common and doesn’t necessarily indicate a psychological issue.
Human sexuality is diverse, and individuals have different preferences, experiences, and physiological responses.
Historically, Sigmund Freud used the term “frigid” to describe women who struggled to achieve orgasm during intercourse, which had negative consequences for women’s self-esteem. However, contemporary understanding of human sexuality has evolved significantly.
Research suggests that the ability to achieve orgasm during intercourse varies among women, and many factors can influence this, including sexual positions, emotional intimacy, and clitoral stimulation.
A study from the Czech National Institute of Mental Health highlighted that certain sexual positions, such as woman-on-top, man-on-top, standing face-to-face, and sitting face-to-face, were more likely to facilitate women’s orgasms. These positions allowed for better eye contact, kissing, and clitoral stimulation, which can enhance sexual satisfaction.
Several other studies have also shown that direct clitoral stimulation plays a crucial role in women’s orgasms, and many women require it to climax consistently.
This indicates that the ability to achieve orgasm is not solely related to psychological well-being but involves various physical and emotional factors.
It’s important to avoid stigmatizing or pathologizing individuals who may not experience orgasms during intercourse. Women’s sexual satisfaction is a complex matter influenced by numerous factors, including communication, emotional connection, and individual preferences. Open and honest communication with one’s partner about desires and needs can be essential in enhancing sexual experiences.
In conclusion, not achieving orgasm during intercourse does not necessarily indicate psychological problems. Human sexuality is diverse, and what matters most is open communication, understanding, and finding what works best for individuals and their partners to achieve mutual satisfaction.
My unprofessional opinion: As someone who was diagnosed with a learning disability in his senior year of college, I can confidently say that some people learn differently. Teaching concepts that work for the great majority may not work well for everyone, and it’s not necessarily because some people are “slow learners.”
Not everyone writes with their right hand, and not everyone learns best by standard or mainstream standards. And the same concept can probably be applied to a lot of women who have problems climaxing.
Indeed, women who rarely orgasm or don’t at all are probably a lot like southpaws in society who are naturally left-handed. So, what works for nine women may not work for one – But that doesn’t necessarily mean the outlier can’t orgasm just as much as everyone else. In most cases, it probably means she requires something a little different than the norm.
- Read more on the role of the clitoris in women’s sexuality.
- If you’re interested in increasing women’s likelihood of orgasm in the man-on-top position, a simple variation on that position increases clitoral stimulation.
- If you’re a woman who has trouble climaxing solo or with partners, Psychology Today suggests the classic book Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women
